Thursday, December 10, 2009

Tiger Woods & men who cheat.

Let me preface this by saying that, for me, cheating is the #1 unforgivable situation in a relationship. I believe this wholeheartedly with every fiber of my being. I find it appalling that people continue to make excuses for celebrities, politicians, etc. that are caught in the media with their indiscretions.

It's always with the, "Oh, he's a celebrity, he has access to more women than the average man ever would... of course he was tempted into cheating." Or, "His marriage is unhappy, or his wife is unavailable." Or even "Men are scientifically predisposed to needing and wanting a variety of sexual partners. He can't help it, it's science." BULLS%*$!!

And then somehow, inevitably, it seems that the wives are the ones who end up suffering the media trauma, losing everything, and being "the bad guy" in these situations. It makes me sick!

FINALLY, this morning I heard a response from a man that was actually real, and no-nonsense.

Chuck Nice, an actor and comedian was on the Today Show this morning and said when asked in regards to the Tiger Woods scandal and why men cheat:

"I've said this before, and I will say it again. And no one wants to accept this as an answer. It is a FAILURE OF CHARACTER. That is it. End of story. It's a failure of character. A man who has the strong spiritual conviction to say, that 'although I may want to do this, I will rely upon a higher power to make sure and strengthen me so that I am able to stand for my vows,' is the man who will NOT cheat. Now that's the end of it!"

Thank you. Thank you Chuck for being the kind of man who stands up for marriage and vows, and the bond between a married couple. No matter what, it's never right, it's never excusable, and it's really nice to hear a man say that. And say it on TV no less!!

This is the kind of man my husband is, and he is not shy about saying it, or "hurting another man's feelings" by pointing that out. I think so many men shy away from this topic or make excuses for their friends or other men who cheat because they feel that it makes them "less of a man" or whatever. Who knows... but it was so refreshing to see one of the good ones out in public speaking on behalf of the GOOD men who are still out there.


Rachel said...

Whoo-hoo! That's right!

Anonymous said...

Great post Rachael!!!
My husband who echo Chuck Nice's words....he says temptation is everywhere for me and these days internet porn is a hung one...easily accessible and all that. Anyways he says it is a choice to stay true to your word or not. Even for us women...because ladies cheat to.
But it is all comes down to that one word...choice. make the good one walk free...make the wrong one....well good luck with that!!!
There was a time when a person's word was all that was needed to seal a deal....have far we have come away from that.....

Rachael said...

Cat, I completely agree! I think if you made the commitment to get married, or even share your life with another person without the marriage vows, then you should uphold that commitment no matter what. That kind of behavior on the part of a man OR a woman is just inexcusable. Besides, if it was so easy, it wouldn't be SO worth it. ;)

Jasmine said...

I agree 100%!!! Temptation is all around us, but we still have a choice to say no.

Great post. Glad you spoke on it.


JaelCustomDesigns said...

So true!

There will always be temptation, it's up to you to make the right decision and put these people in there places. Whether it be a man or woman.

Situations like this happen all the time, it's just when the cheater is a celebrity it gets worlwide attention. Tiger had a great image and it was looking squeaky clean until his alleged accident.

Well, you know what they say... Whatever is hidden in the dark will come to light.

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