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QUESTIONS FOR ~ xcetrachick ~

NAME: Are you there Red Bull? It’s me…xcetrachick

I also respond favorably to the shortened version of xc.

Keep up with my hilarious thoughts on everyday adventures, wisdom on figuring out the opposite sex, and flair for funny storytelling at my new digs here at Woman's World or at my other hip and happening hangout~ http://betweentimeanddreams.blogspot.com/

LOCATION: currently riding the snowboard of life thru Utah -a place where green jello, fry sauce and lime rickeys rule. I have also habitated in Alabama, California, Arizona, Illinois, Florida, Washington, xcetra, xcetra –too many places to list. Gypsychick once was I.

AGE: (You don't have to answer if you don't want to)

Ok- then. I guess I’ll leave this one unanswered. Why get naked if you don’t have to. Wait a minute…what am I saying?

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR:

Let’s see. I’ve been writing since I could hold a pencil, blogging since the moment I figured out how to access free backgrounds and add an RSS feed.

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN:
That overnight maxipads offer any significant protection against leaks, that women can’t engage in raw humor without feeling embarrassed the way that men do, and that the character Kate on Lost is not likable just because she murdered someone and lucked out with both the cute doctor and the sexy scam artist.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST:

Life experience, music, intense friendships, love & marriage, mindblowing sex, hilarious things that make me laugh out loud for days, amazing food, competitiveness, a spontaneous adrenaline rush, quiet moments, bee stings, the perspective to make every day count, Red Bull, books I’ve read, mistakes I’ve made, people I’ve observed, places I’ve visited, margarita cupcakes, a surprise divorce, a whirlwind love story, the scent of a baby, a quest for truth, parenthood, redemption, a partridge in a pear tree, and the semi-annual sale at Victoria’s Secret.

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME:

Flying by the seat of my pants, waiting for the other shoe to drop, while I rip the toilet paper off my shoe and find another horse to ride in on. I really don’t have spare time – and my guess is neither do you.

WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG:

I was waterboarded by Carly, then blackmailed by ACORN. So I had to say yes.

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH:

In fact I do- and let me just say he is deliciously amazing. Serves 1.

YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME:

If I tell you, you’ll figure out what I love to write about…and what fun would that be. So I’ll string you along a bit and let you know it is the one place in my house which will never have a television set. Nope. Not the bathroom. I would actually love to watch Dancing with the Stars soaking in a cloud of bubbles, waiting for someone to slip on their ridiculous costume and make that show even more of a comedy than it already is. Alright…you talked me into it. My favorite place to spend time is… changed my mind again. Back to not telling you. Sucks when we do that to each other… I know. Works so much better on disgruntling the opposite sex. I’ll give you a hint. Some people say it at the end of a fortune cookie reading. That probably gave it away. Still, you’ll just have to become my online bff and read everything I write with your jaw dropped, motivation to get your groove on, and ascribe to my blog motto, which is “now go- make life interesting…or at least less boring.”

WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN:

um… I'ld have to say my boobs

BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS:

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't." ~Erica Jong OR

"A woman should never look like she could scare the buzzards off a gut wagon." - my dad, in a heavy southern drawl

It is a Woman's World and I like it that way

I am so excited and honored to have been asked to contribute to this blog! (Thank you Carly).


What a great opportunity to communicate with other women! I've been asked to start out by filling out this short questionairre, and I'm happy to do so....so lets begin.
Allow me to introduce myself:

NAME:

My name is Tressa Bailey. Its pronounced exactly as it is spelled. Only 1 e and that e is "short". As a child I hated my first name. It was different than everyone else's and no kid wants that. I like it now. It suits me. I don't know whether I lived up to the odd name or it lived up to me. Sometimes I'm called, Tess or Tressie. Usually by my family.

LOCATION:

I live in South Bend, Indiana. Home of the Notre Dame Fighting Irish!!!! It is the best cross-match you will ever find of Small Town and Big City. I've lived here all my life and despite the fact that I absolutely hate our very cold and very snowy Winters....I'll probably never leave. Hopefully I will be able to share why in future posts.

AGE:

Mentally about 30, physically it depends on the day, but actually 47. I'll be 48 on January 31, 2010.

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR:

It has to be at least 10 years or so now...in one form or another. I had diaries and pen pals as a child, journals as a teen and young adult. Maybe I just like to talk a lot!!!

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN:

That we are actually (only) equal to men. Seriously... ladies that only applies in the workforce. In real life we are different than men. Better in a lot of ways and maybe not so good in a few. We should just be who we are. Being a woman is a wonderful stroke of luck. We feel emotions so much stronger. That is not a bad thing!!! We have instincts that few men can touch and tend to be healthier and live longer. We can use both sides of our brain at the same time. We are prettier as a rule. I don't understand why we are still comparing ourselves to men. We can do anything we want without doing that. Its like comparing apples to oranges... completely different fruits, but together they make a helluva fruit salad. I love being a woman!!! Viva la difference!

WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST:

Babies. Seriously. If all adults had the capacities to accept and learn combined with the tenacity to carry on after failures that a baby does, well this world would be completely different and probably a much better planet in which to live.

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME:

Obviously I write. Blogging, essays, commentary and poetry. I've had a love/hate thing going on with words my whole life. I also love hanging out with my kids and my family and friends when I have free time. I do various crafts and love museums, festivals, movies and a hike once in a while. I'm also a pretty good cook. I hope to actually write the recipes I've been throwing together for years down so I can share a few with you.

WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG:

Well I was asked. I checked it out and knew almost instantly that I wanted to be a part of this. Real women writing for real women! I'm all about being real.

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH:

My specialties include: Mom's potato salad with a twist, some really great chili and salisbury steak. I also know the secret to that great chicken served at polish wedding feasts! I don't do too much fat free cooking.... My family originated in the South!

YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME:

Home is where my heart is. My home, my friend's, my family's homes... After that, I'm kind of geeky. I could hang out in museums of all types for days on end with libraries following close behind. I also love going to work at the Hotel everyday. Its really great!

WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN:

Whoever said this was a man's world lied. We women control the heart of the world. We raise the men we so often claim are running it, we inspire the great changes by nudging our children in the direction they need to go, we stop the wars with our tears. I am proud to be a woman because we love so easily and completely. Proud that we change the world with soft touches and strong hugs. Proud that we communicate wishes and dreams that are made reality by our sons and daughters. No body lives without a beating heart. We are the heart in the body of humanity. YAY US!

BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS:

When I was a young girl, I was feisty and a bit spoiled (imagine that!). I was very jealous of a young lady in my band class, she was first seat - I was second. We competed in almost everything and in this one class she was beating me. Seriously it was killing me. I complained to my Grandpa. My Grandpa was the wisest man I've ever known. He asked me a series of questions, the most outstanding being "how much do you practice?". Then he hung his head and told me quite bluntly that the other girl probably deserved the seat more than I because great rewards come only with great labor. This has stuck with me my entire life. Everything reflects the effort you put into it.

A couple of weeks ago, I made a fantastic purchase. This book its full of wonderful home beauty treatments that leave you feeling fabulous and wont break the bank!

Here are some of my faves:


CARROT SKIN RENEWAL FACE PACK

• Take 2 large carrots and 2 tablespoons of honey. Cook carrots slowly, then mash or blend in mixer.
• Mix honey with carrots.
• Apply gently to the skin when lukewarm and wait for 15 minutes.
• Rinse off with cool water.

This secret is jam packed with Vitamin A to remove dead skin cells and hydrating elements which condition and smooth the skin.




CRANBERRY LIP GLOSS

• Take 10 to 12 freas cranberries, 1 tablespoon of alomond oil and 1 teaspoon of honey.
• Place almond oil and honey in a bowl and microwave for 20 to 30 seconds. Crush the cranberries in a tea strainer over the honey and almond mixture. Pour into an airtight container.

This secret delivers a potent combination of antioxidants , Omega 3, Omega 6, Vitamin E and essential minerals to condition and protect your lips.



AVOCADO HAIR CONDITIONER

• Take one cup of avocado paste and the yolk of 2 eggs. Beat the egg and mix in the avocado, adding 1-6 table spoons of olive oil.
• Apply for half an hour then rinse with lukewarm water.

This secret will enrich the hair with proteins, nurturing oils and vitamins A, B5, C, D, E ,and K

Saved By 'The Lion'

 

I love my hair short! Recently I had this great idea to let it grow until my birthday, IN MAY.

Today, I'm thinking that was not such a good idea! It's in that 'In between stage,' and I'm having a bad hair day, for the second day in a row. Not long enough for a pony tail, yet too long to mouse and go, my hair is giving me the blues!

It's casual Friday, and spirit day at the university where I teach. I'm rocking a polo style shirt, and ball cap both displaying the school's mascot, 'Golden Lion.' That's as good as it's going to get today!

Now, I'm reconsidering letting my hair grow! I have two choices, wait a couple of weeks when my stylist can get to me, or go with the lady and Wal-Mart, who jacked my hair up once before. Hmmm, I'm caught on the fence!

Introducing a new and exciting blogger....

..... me!

Hiya mates, here's some tantalising tit bits about me!

NAME

Anna B Bomb

LOCATION

Melbourne, Australia

AGE

24, I hit the quarter century milestone in November

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR?

I started blogging before it was called blogging when I was 13. I can't even remember the name of the site now, but it helped me sort through some pretty tough pre teen, and teen issues. I've had a break for quite a number of years since then, and just started back up in August of this year after a couple of stalled starts.

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN?

That we're obsessed with our appearance and we're huge consumers. I know this may be true for many women, but most of the women I know are much more complex creatures than the shallow portrayals of us in the media.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST?

Being outdoors and getting fresh air in my lungs. Nothing gets the brain ticking over better than a good shot of oxygen. Top it off with some amazing scenery like white sand beaches, a gorgeous sunset, waterfalls or mountain views and I'm well inspired.

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME?
Depends on my mood!

Sometimes I love to just veg on the couch and take in some trashy movies or catch up with a novel and listen to some good tunes.

Other times nothing beats a cold beer at the local pub and playing pool with my boy, but then again I love to dress up, put on a bit of makeup and hit the town for cocktails and dancing with my favourite girls too.

I love AFL football, so weekends during footy season are usually spent watching my team play and then going out for a meal or drink afterwards.

Plus I try to spend one day on the weekend cooking up meals for the week ahead. So cooking and baking are big pass times for me.

Mostly though, I like to get outdoors and do something active like go for a run, take a mates dog for a walk, go fishing, snowboard, ride my bike around the neighbourhood, hike a bush trail, swim at the beach and the list goes on.



Finally, I love camping and like it rough ;) Combine camping, outdoors, friends and some live music for a weekend festival and I'm in heaven.


WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG?
I was asked, I had a look, I jumped right in without hesitation. Seriously, I can't pass up an opportunity to flex my writing muscles a little more, and be part of a diverse project. I didn't really think twice, I just did it.





DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH?
I know I'm not alone here, but anything with peanut butter or bananas or chocolate - or a combination of all of the above for maximum awesomeness.


YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME
Anywhere outdoors, or if I'm forced inside - the kitchen!


WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN?
Mateship, and the sense of "sisterhood" I feel amongst all women.

It makes me proud to think that if ever I, or one of my girlfriends, has a problem there's always somewhere to turn. The support, friendship and care I have received from female friends and strangers alike when in times of need has been immense. I know that there's always someone to talk to, someone who's been there before and has some advice, someone with compassion, or someone with a joke to ease the burden.

BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS...
From my Mum, the cliched "everything happens for a reason". I am constantly surprised by life and the road I'm on, but I know that bumps and failures are a normal part of life. If something doesn't go my way, I know it wasn't meant to be, and instead of dwelling I try to take the learning and move on to the next thing.

Welcome Gretchen!

NAME: Gretchen Bruce


 LOCATION: Seattle, Washington



AGE:  I'm 42.

 HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR: Only since May 2009.


 WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN:
The perception of women's beauty is portrayed and virtually dictated in the media through a very narrow ideal. I would love to see the media embrace more of the real beauty of all of the very unique differences of women i.e. age, shapes, size, style. Many women still feel inferior about their bodies only becuase they are different from what the media has streamlined and defined, when in fact they are so beautiful and perfect just the way they are!

 WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST: I'm inspired to witness others follow their true passion. When they find their calling, and get excited about getting up in the morning and doing something everyday that inspires them and makes them happy.

 WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME:
I love the outdoors, so it's either running, walking, or in the winter it's snowboarding...and of course blogging!


 WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG:
I love reading all of the wonderful posts on this blog. It's inspiring to be a part of such a talented and incredible group of women.

 DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH:
 It's not really a dish, but I could eat sushi all day long. For me it's like eating desert!



YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME:
Near the ocean or in the snow!

WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN:
When I witness other women in the spotlight who do great things with a good heart, with strength and dignity and flare. Women like Ellen Degenerous and Oprah Winfrey to name a few.



 BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS:
 Love and allow yourself to be loved. Show it in simple ways to someone on the street, to family to friends and strangers etc., and everything else will fall into place.

Flax Seed Hair Gel

I'm always in search for natural alternatives for items that I use everyday. I have naturally curly hair, and anyone who has it can attest to the fact that weather can be our friend or foe. I recently came across a recipe for flax seed hair gel. I became curious and decided to google it. I got a lot of hits, along with a lot of rave reviews.
I have had a lot of success using natural oils and hair gel. My curls look defined and have bounce. I decided to substitute my regular hair gel with the flax seed gel for a week to see for myself. This gel is preservative free. You should keep it in the fridge for only a week.





Flax seed Hair Gel:

1. 500 ml distilled water
   
2. 1/4 cup flax seeds
   
3. Aloe Vera gel 3 oz. (optional)
   
4. Strainer

Boil the water on medium heat. Add the flax seeds and let simmer for 10 minutes. You will see a gelatinous mixture form. It will look like egg whites. Remove from heat and put the mixture through a strainer. Once cooled, add your aloe vera gel. Store in fridge.

My results were great. We have been experiencing a lot of humidity this past week, and my hair held up very well. My hair was also soft to touch. I like the fact that you can be generous with this gel and not get a heavy buildup. The flax seed gel texture is identical to egg whites...just keep that in mind.
All the best, Marnie http://www.whatsupwithred.blogspot.com/

A Celebratory Recipe!

I had my first major culinary success of married life tonight! Considering the fact that my husband and I have been living Spanish-style and eating assorted appetizers in the place of full-fledged meals for the past six weeks, the fact that I a) took the time to make a full meal and b) it was good is a big deal. In celebration of this event, I give you the following recipe:

Wild Rice Risotto with Red Peppers and Cheese

1 small red pepper, diced

1-2 Tbsp oil

3 cubes chicken bullion

1 1/2 cups wild rice

3-5 cups water

Parmesan cheese, shredded

Romano cheese, shredded

In a medium stockpot, saute the red pepper in the oil until slightly softened. Add bullion cubes and break up. Add rice and stir. Add 1/2 to 1 cup of water and stir fairly frequently until water begins to be absorbed. Add more water as needed and cover the pot in between stirrings. Continue this process until rice is soft and creamy (should take approximately 20-30 minutes). Add cheese, stir to incorporate flavors.

Bon Appetit!

Blessings,

Cindy

Check out my personal blog at http://wherescindynow.blogspot.com!

Australia

Hi All,

Just thought id let you know whats happening down here in my world, I woke up this morning to a red sky! Its everywhere in my state of NSW. Pretty scary most flights are grounded. Everyones cars are dirty and the schools are keeping the kids inside. There is a total fire ban which is understandable! Pretty scary they are predicting it may even hit New Zealand! Whats happening in your part of the world??

Each Woman Serves A Purpose In Your Life

It is obvious to all of us that women friendships plays a huge role in our lives, regretfully I did not learn this until my 30’s. Well, better late then never right! In the past it was so easy for me to cut a girlfriend off, if I felt I was not able to tolerate her character flaws (i.e. not punctual, not supportive, never returning my calls etc...), by doing this I totally disregarded their good characteristics. Who died and left me judge, I seriously needed to get off my high horse! I cut so many people off at one point, I wanted to throw a birthday party and barely had people to invite, had a huge reality check, feeling a great deal of sadness and hopelessness. Immediately I made a list of friendships I needed to restore. It took a while to restore these friendships, because my list was so freaking long. And of course, there were 1 or 2 people that were truly toxic and not good for my spirit, which I kindly continue to keep them out of my life.

I have learned it is not fair to expect our girlfriends to be perfect, each women in your life plays a role in your life. It is not realistic to hold all your girlfriends to an extremely high expectation. You maybe able to tell one friend all your marriage problems and not tell another friend, but that same friend may be your shopping buddy. Everyone has their role! Some friends you can have play dates with and have double dates with and some you cannot. There is always that one friend when things get really bad that you can always count on to be there, that is that particular friend’s role in your life, but this same friend may take 3 weeks to return an e-mail or a voice message. It is time we truly stop sweating the small stuff.


Before you cut a girlfriend off think about it, can you imagine if your friends cut you off every time you made a mistake (Nobody is perfect)? The standard I held my friends to were ridiculous, but yet when I made a mistake I wanted everyone to look pass it. Can we say DOUBLE STANDARD!

We all have friends who are tardy, always talking about some else, who cannot keep a secret, borrow things and do not return them, always talking about their self they never give you a chance to tell them about your day.

• If a friend is always tardy, even after you have mentioned several times, she does not respect your time. She is not going to change, deal with her according (do not rely on her to be on time)
• If a friend never returns items or money, even after you have brought to her attention it bothers you. Let it go, stop lending her things and deal with her accordingly. People only get away with what you let them get away with, stop being a doormat.

I can on and on with these scenarios, but I think you got the drift. Of course there are a few things that are unacceptable like.
• Verbal or Physical Abuse
• Out right lying
• Stealing
• Out of Control Drug Abuse
I hope my words have given some positive insight in making your friendships stronger. It is important for us to value our friendships and set healthy boundaries at the same time. Let’s celebrate our friendships by focusing more on the good and not the bad all of time.

Chantale Merchant

thoughts of a sahm

Seriously, the Cranberry Sauce Was a Steal!

Things I Have Learned in the Approximately Four Months Since I Have Graduated College and Therefore Entered What Has Been Intimidatingly Described to Me as "The Real World":

1. The delicate art of layering clothing to ensure optimal warmth and minimal periods of freezing/sweating

2. How to surf the sale shelf at our local grocery store, which is one of man's most beautiful inventions. Hello, all the cranberry sauce I could ever need!

3. That sometimes galoshes really are a fashion statement (in Southeast Alaska, at least).

4. I really can live a full and worthwhile life without cable on my TV

5. Netflix is a beautiful, beautiful thing (see #4)

6. There is incredible beauty in living simply

7. Working to live instead of living to work is really where it's at

8. Getting snail mail is the deserved source of much excitement

9. Refrigerator magnets are essential when trying to make a house a home

Like most post-graduation myths and legends, I've realized that life in The Real World isn't that bad. It's not all walking seven miles in the rain and snow to an underpaying job and coming home to a dirty house full of screaming kids and overdue bills. It includes walking only about two miles in the rain to an admittedly underpaying job and coming home to a house containing a few misplaced shoes and dirty dishes, completely manageable bills on the teeny tiny kitchen table, and a Beta fish and a new husband who are both very excited to see me.

Blame the rain thing on living in Southeast Alaska.

The rest isn't all that bad.

Blessings,

Cindy

http://wherescindynow.blogspot.com/

Five Weeks - Till The Big Race

I'm preparing for the Big Race!

No. Not the NYC Marathon, or even a half marathon. I'm getting ready for the Susan G. Komen, "Race For The Cure." This year 'It's My Race.'

The very first time I participated, in 2006, I walked by myself. Although there were thousands, literally tens of thousands of women, I wasn't with a group, or with friends. That was okay, I was doing something I wanted to do. The atmosphere was electrifying! I knew I wanted to do it again!

It was 2008, when I walked again, joined by my friend Yaminah and our daughters. Mr. Husband cheered us on, along with the other 3 miles of men.

We raced with our girls because we wanted to share the experience with them, as well as encourage them to make a difference in causes that affect their survival. This year, I'm walking with a friend from church Anita, who since last year's race been diagnosed, fought, and beat breast cancer. I'm also walking in honor of my aunt Gladys who is a survivor.

Now, that it's our local 2009 race is in five weeks, I'm taking it seriously. This was just the motivation I needed to get me back on track. I've been looking for motivation for awhile. She's been missing in action for a long time now. I see her off in the distance.

I know you might be thinking, why get prepared for a 5K, it's only 3.1 miles. It may seem simple, let me tell you! The first time I walked in the "Race For The Cure," at the one mile mark I just knew it was two miles. And when I finally got to the two mile marker, I was looking for the finish line. I THOUGHT, I was in pretty good shape. In preparation, this week, I'll start walking one mile at least three days, maybe four, and each week gradually increase the distance.

I also want to make this year's race more fun by dressing up! I plan on wearing a pink wig, feather boa, and maybe even a tu-tu! Yea, I think I can rock a tu-tu! I my children will be embarrassed, one has already said she won't be walking with me, she'll cheer with her dad. Who cares, I'm walking for an excellent cause, and having fun doing it!

As much as I love participating in the "Race for the Cure," breast cancer is a very serious matter. If you've never participated in any breast cancer race, walk or any other fund raiser, I encourage you to consider it. It's all worth while, and I promise you'll be inspired. If nothing else the funds that you contribute, might even help in saving your life!

Yaminah and I, at the finish line!

Pet Shop

With 4 kids in our busy little home we haven't got around to getting a pet yet. There has been talk and consideration over the years but Gooseman and I still haven't been brave enough to take the plunge and add to our energising brood.

There was a while back where we tossed up having a dog or a third child. I won and got my gorgeous baby girl. (And then a bonus prize of one more 18 months later). Now as the baby days are fading rapidly, we feel the need to add to our family. Gooseman feels the kids would benefit from the child/pet bond and responsibility it would bring. Me, I just want something cute and small to give a cool name too.

What to get? We have all agreed a dog would be most fun. But also the most expensive and work to look after. Gooseman and Miss 2 would settle for a cat, but cats give me the total creeps. We were offered a bunny in a cage when we brought our house so the previous owners would not have to bother moving it "Oh sure, no worries, the kids would love it" I said without thinking (as I do). Gooseman was not, however, so accommodating and I had to make a rather embarrassing phone call to say we would not be requiring their little bunny after all. Mice. ew. Guinea pig (small step up from mice).

Master 9 and 3/4 begged me this week to bring home his class budgie. I initially thought no, but he was persistent and I thought "what the heck", I never brought home the class pet when I was at school (I think it was a mouse) oh and Mexican walking fish...yeah pass.

So I went into school yesterday afternoon and picked him up with "Buddy the budgie". As I walked out of the class I (half) joked to his teacher "hopefully you still have a bird on Monday!" She had a look of utter horror on her face and asked if we had cats. "No. A 2 year old" was my answer. Then we bolted to the car before she broke Master 9's heart and retrieved her bird back. I was trying to drive real careful because I didn't want scrambled bird in my car.

We got home, dumped Buddy on top of the stereo cabinet and took off out to go to the school disco. In our rush I hadn't bothered to light the fire or shut the curtains. Gooseman arrived home a couple of hours later to find Buddy standing on one foot with all his feathers puffed out stone cold still. Our house was freezing! He moved him to a warm room and placed a towel over his cage, but the poor thing was completely shell shocked. I went to bed praying that Buddy would survive not only the night but the whole weekend at our house. Thankfully he moved this morning and stopped standing on just one foot! He has also made a few alarming squawks which Master 9 assures me is of normal "Buddy behaviour".

I sat watching him while I downed my green tea before and decided a bird is definitely not for me. It boringly stands there in a tiny cage, it's almost depressing. Gooseman calls him "the flying rodent" (only he doesn't actually fly).

I would really love a Shetland pony. Wonder what Gooseman will say to that?

Posted by Widge from My Guide to Surviving and Enjoying Life's Mundane

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The Wishy Washy-ness of Romance

Has there ever been a time in your single or "before marriage" life that you were so absolutely torn on what to do romantically?
Have you ever felt yourself seriously attracted to two amazingly great guys but couldn't decide which one?
Did you date losers before them and then the two Mr. Wonderfuls had to show up at once and screw your whole system up?
Did you pull out your hair and grow new wrinkles as you agonized over which of the Two Awesomes would be the better choice?
What did you do?
What advice was given to you and what advice did you take?
Please help!
-Rachel

www.whendoestragedyarrive.blogspot.com

Introducing Alessandra!

Name: Alessandra Hayden

Location: Tacoma, WA - USA

Age: 30 years old

How long have you been blogging for: Since June, 2008.

What is the biggest misconception that media gives to women: In my opinion is that men and women have to be equals, I think they don't, we should celebrate our differences!

What inspires you the most: Oh, many things such as: colors, fibers, people.

What do you enjoy doing on your spare time: Spending time with my baby boy, chatting with my husband, surfing the Internet, crocheting and going to museums or art exhibits.

What made you decide to contribute to this blog: Well, I think I decided to contribute because I feel like I can share my little world with other people like me and have a good time.

Do you have a favorite dish: Does chocolate count? Just kidding! I like Italian cuisine the best, so pasta is my favorite.

Your favorite place to spend time: My home, better yet if is with my family.

What makes you proud to be a woman: Being a mother.

Best piece of advice your ever received: "Life is what you make it"

Make your own Whipped Beauty Butter.

I have a great recipe for whipped beauty butter. I am not calling it body butter because this recipe can safely be used from head to toe. The ingredients are the purest you will ever use and it costs a fraction of what you would pay in the stores...without the preservatives, colorants or chemical based fragrances. This would be a great item to have on hand during the winter months.

I have naturally curly hair, and it's dry by nature. I find that this beauty butter sinks right into my hair, giving my curls definition. Also use it as a moisturizer under my make-up. I normally couldn't do this with store bought butters, but I can with this recipe as the ingredients are all raw and have never been touched by heat.

Now with that being said, every ones skin/hair is different so your needs will dictate how long your beauty butter will last.

The Recipe:

1. 1/2 cup Raw Shea Butter
2. 1/4 cup Raw Coconut Oil
3. 10-15 drops Ylang Ylang Essential oil (optional)
4. Hand Mixer
   

Since the oils are raw, they are in it's purest form. There are many ways you can melt the ingredients. I personally prefer melting them in a hot water bath. I place my ingredients into a glass bowl and immerse it in a hot water bath. I take it out when it's almost fully melted.
Then mix the ingredients with a hand mixer for 5 minutes and let it rest for 5 minutes. Mix it again for 5 minutes and let it rest for another 5 minutes. If you like essential oil add it to your mixture at this stage and mix it again for 5 more minutes. Done.

This recipe yields 8 oz (or 1 cup) beauty butter. Have fun with it!
All the best,
Marnie
http://www.whatsupwithred.blogspot.com/

Behind The Scenes

We planned a family outing today. Miss 4 had a birthday party to attend by 10am 40kms away from our home. I've stressed before, I'm NOT a morning person, neither is Gooseman and really, I think our kids are following suit. The yelling family lived up to their name this morning rushing to get out of the door as we hunted high and low for master 10's missing shoe. He only has one pair and I seriously considered him going the whole day only wearing one as the party and the clock ticked closer to ten.

Sometime as I had a complete meltdown, all but threw the party girl into the car and threatened to leave the rest of the family behind, Gooseman found the offending shoe. In the bottom of the toybox. Doors were slammin, kids were crying, parents were huffing. Car went screeching out the driveway. Bye poor neighbours (I truly hoped they didn't think we were heading to church this particular sunday). We had 15 mins to get there.

I had got up on time this morning. My problem being I just go so sloooow. Gooseman slept in longer, got himself ready, showered and shaved for longer than it takes me to put on my full face of make up! Played around with his cell phone for ages (note this it is important later) and to give him some credit, changed miss 2.

I was furious that gooseman was fiddling with his phone. As we took off down our street he plugged it into the cigarette lighter hole and it became a GPS device. A women informed me we were to turn right at the next intersection. duh. really! "I know how to get there!! you didnt need to waste so much time being fancy with your phone!! that is going to be soooooo annoying the whole way!!" (we still hadn't even left our neighbourhood). The women's voice continued. Each time I loudly sighed. I turned the radio up louder to drown her out once we reached the motorway.

The whole car was eerily quiet during the ride except for this irritating women's voice that belonged on an aeroplane.
Back when we brought our car we named our GPS lady Ping. We thought it was great fun when she would randomly speak to us in Japanese because it was programmed in Japan and she let us know when we were heading into the ocean. Our family made a game of it and chorused "Thank you Ping" each time she made an announcement. We've since worked out how to turn her off.
The time reached 10am, by my calculations we still had a long way to go. Gooseman turned off unexpectedly (following European Ping's advice of course). I wouldn't have turned that way. The reason I had it in my head that it was going to be such a long journey is because I had mapped out a very long route in my head. I hadn't thought of going this particular way. In no time we were almost there. The journey that I had planned on being at least 45 mins had been shortened to just under half an hour. whoops.

I apologised to Gooseman. He accepted and we went on with what we had planned for our family day out. We dropped Miss 4 off at her party place and took the other 3 out for early morning (for us!) drinks at a cafe' by the beach. We explored the beach and climbed a big rock cave called "Cave Rock". Picked up Miss 4 from her party and went to visit a local Heritage park called Ferrymead.The day however was still stale from the stink that had been made earlier on. The kids didn't listen well, ran off in all directions and moaned when it was time to move on from something they'd had fun at. We all came home tired and Gooseman and I feeling miserable with head colds. It should have been a fun day. The weather was absolutely perfect. So warm people were swimming in the sea as if it were summer! There wasn't any wind or a cloud in the sky. We were in a beautiful place with glistening water that literally sparkled , surrounded by green hills, amazing homes and snow capped mountains to be seen in the distance. We rode a tram, visited an old school and an amazing little movie theatre that sold tickets for just $1.30. I had wanted so badly to enjoy this day. I looked through the photos and realised we had such grumpy faces. A real eye opener to take a chill pill when things don't always go to plan. There are always going to be hiccups. Especially with young kids. It's so easy to expect too much of them sometimes.

I read a post from Amy at Havenspace yesterday that I should have applied to my life this morning. It's about how women have the power of influence. And today I used mine the way I shouldn't have. Thankfully mercy is new in the morning.

Posted by widge at My Guide to surviving and enjoying Life's Mundane

I MADE IT THROUGH MY BIG SHOW

I MADE IT THROUGH SET UP WITHOUT PASSING OUT :) SO HERE'S A PREVIEW, MORE PICS TO FOLLOW AFTER SHOW.

































THIS IS THE DAY OF THE SHOW & SOME OF MY PEEPS, MAKING THEIR PILES OF GOODIES AROUND MY TENTS. ALTHOUGH IT LOOKS LIKE A GLORIFIED YARDSALE, IT WAS ACTUALLY AN UPSCALE HERB FAIR,WHICH IS FUNNY BECAUSE AS GOOD A DISPLAYER & STAGER I AM, MY "PEEPS" KILL EACH OTHER TO GRAB STUFF AWAY :) & EVEN THOUGH IT STARTED AT 10:00AM, THEY WERE THERE AT 7:00AM, I GOT THERE AT 8:15 & THEY TOLD ME I WAS LATE LOL






















THESE ARE MY DEAREST FRIENDS & "PEEPS" :) FROM LEFT DALES FRIEND (FORGOT NAME), I KNOW I'LL NEVER HERE THE END OF IT LOL),LUANN & DALE(BROTHER & SISTER)& MY HUSBAND, MY BIGGEST PEEP OF ALL & NO, ALTHOUGH THEY WERE THERE AT 7:00AM & IT DIDN'T START UNTIL 10:00AM THAT IS NOT A CAN OF BEER IN LUANNS' HAND, IS IT?








THE GIRLS ENJOYING THEIR GOODIES & A WONDERFUL DAY



THE CROWD WAS THERE BEFORE I GOT THERE, ALMOST SOLD OUT BEFORE IT STARTED, WHAT GREAT PEEPS I HAVE :)

Jane Austin

I know Im a bit behind the times, but I recently watched this movie and for anyone who hasnt seen it I cant recomend it enough. You dont have to be a big Austin fan to understand how the story works. As someone who has only read Emma, and thought at the time it was a bit dated, I now have a different outlook after seeing how Austins themes still to this modern day transend through time to remain very relevant! I cant wait to start reading. Any suggestions on what to start with??

Introducing...Cindy!

NAME: Cindy

LOCATION: Juneau, Alaska

AGE: 22

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR:
About two years--I started my first blog as a "breakup project"--something to do instead of cry for hours on end over being dumped by my longtime boyfriend. It served its purpose and I started my second and current blog as a way to keep my friends and family updated on my summer adventures--a trip to Bolivia serving at an orphanage, my first summer in Alaska with my then-boyfriend (who is now my husband!), and a week in England at an Oxford summer program. It morphed from travel-blog into a "keep tabs on my rapidly changing life"-blog after I got engaged, embarked on my senior year of college, and realized that marrying the love of my life meant moving to Alaska indefinitely.

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN:
That "we" need to be told how to arrange the details of our lives and "they" have all the answers We have all these magazines and shows giving us tips on everything--beauty, shopping, weight loss, sex, relationships, friendships, wedding planning, studying, what we should read, where we should read it, what glasses we should be wearing while we're reading aforementioned book in aforementioned place--why can't we just decide to read the books we think sound fun, wear the clothes we think are pretty, plan the wedding we think will be the most beautiful?

The two most beautiful women I've ever met weren't walking ads for Vogue, they simply looked at their closets one day and said, "I'm going to wear everything I think is pretty, and I don't care what everyone else thinks."

WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST:
Simple beauty. The most beautiful things I have ever seen are sunsets, sunrises, and my niece's little button nose.

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME:
I'm a habitual academic with a penchant for artsy things--I like reading, writing, crocheting, photographing with our new camera, and lately I've been getting weirdly into dehydrating fruits and vegetables for the winter.

WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG:
I loved the real narrative written by women in so many different walks and stages of life, and how that could inspire other women in similar (or even different!) places. It gives such a rich view of the world, and I wanted to add my kind of landscape to that already stunning vista.

So here it is: I'm a young woman.

A recent college graduate.

An even more recent newlywed.

A police officer's wife who worries a Sergeant and the Chaplain will come home in his place one day.

An aspiring author with two big breaks on the horizon.

An avid crocheter.

A bookstore clerk who loves books and sometimes hates the people who buy them.

A sworn thank-you note writer.

And what theoretically should be above all, but which I constantly struggle to keep as a priority, a woman of faith.

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH:
I'd give my right arm for Brie en Croute with an assortment of compotes and fresh fruit to eat it with. Yum.

FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME:
In the real world? My living room, with a cup of tea, when it's clean. In my dream world? Oxford, with a heavy book, even when it's dirty.

WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN:
Duality. How we can hold children with such tenderness and a sledgehammer with such authority. True femininity to me--and what I love so much about it!--is wearing work boots under your evening gown.

BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS:
"Happiness, like a butterfly, lands on you when you least expect it." It was written on a little porcelain box my grandmother gave me when I was little, and it's so true.

Check out my personal, "keep tabs on my ever-changing life" blog at http://wherescindynow.blogspot.com/!

Weird Things I Saw On The Side Of The Interstate Today

1. A man, walking backwards, trying to thumb a ride.

2. A shoe.
Just one.

3. A child's carseat.
Why?!

Just a few things that make me go, "Hmmm......"

My name is Rachel and you can check me out at http://www.whendoestragedyarrive.blogspot.com/

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten

My daughter started school this week. She's now in Senior Kindergarten. On the first day, she came home with some documents. I just figured it was the routine info. from the teacher etc. In the stack, the teacher included the poem "All I really need to know I learned in Kindergarten", by Robert Fulghum.

I'm not too sure how old this poem is, but I remember reading it years ago and it put a smile on my face. I will be putting this poem on my fridge. It's a good reminder and proves that things needn't be so complicated.

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten
by Robert Fulghum

Most of what I really need

To know about how to live

And what to do and how to be

I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top

Of the graduate school mountain,

But there in the sand pile at Sunday school.

These are the things I learned:

Share everything.

Play fair.

Don't hit people.

Put things back where you found them.

Clean up your own mess.

Don't take things that aren't yours.

Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.

Wash your hands before you eat.

Flush.

Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life -Learn some and think some

And draw and paint and sing and dance

And play and work everyday some.

Take a nap every afternoon.

When you go out into the world,

Watch out for traffic,

Hold hands and stick together.

Be aware of wonder

All the best,

Marnie

http://www.whatsupwithred.blogspot.com/

Melanie's Song

This is one of my all time favourite songs Breathe.

It's been tainted with sadness as a person I know had this played during her funeral. I'm extremely reluctant to call her a "friend" as that would be placing more closeness to our relationship than there actually was. But it was a girl I worked with for a year when I had a part time job in a clothes store 6 years ago. She had a huge impact on me and more than anything I wish I had been more equipped/bold/friendly to have made one on her.

The story of her life that she shared with me during those late night shopping hours are never going to leave me. Her life saddened me. Made me angry towards those who hurt and abandoned her. At the same time I was in awe of how incredibly hard working and generous she was.

Melanie became a mum when she was only 15 years old. Her own mother had died when she was young. She had spent her life shipped between relatives. When I met her she was 25, a year and a bit older than me at the time. We connected straight away because we were both young mums other than that our backgrounds and lives were vastly different. She worked full time to provide for her daughter who was a very mature wise little girl for her 10 years. I caught snippets of her life every so often when she would share such personal details during odd random moments. I learned she was in fact the mother of 2, her second child a full blood sibling to her first had to be given up for adoption when the fathers family refused to support her or even acknowledge the new baby. She was 19 and had to give him up to a family who would love and protect him. This broke my heart. I viewed her in a completely different light from then on.

She left our store and went to work in another. We kept in contact only visiting each other while we were working though. There were a few times that she invited me to a party, I was pregnant by then with number 3 child and it didn't appeal. I now wish I had made the effort.

She would share with me about these awful sounding guys she would go out with for a short while. I look back and I was judgemental and I had absolutely no right to be. I believe that's what kept a distance between us. From me embracing her and loving her.

She always had a cold, or a head ache (she put it down to the drink she'd had the night before). She kept on working and I never remember her being away sick. Like all of us her life was going to be perfect when she lost that last 5 kgs. She did. She looked great. She didn't feel it though.

I left my job to have my baby and we moved towns so I no longer visited that particular mall anymore. It wasn't until about a year later that I found out she had been diagnosed and gone under treatment for leukaemia. When I found this out about her I was shocked. This can't happen, she's had more than her fair share of life's hardships. I prayed for her a lot. I had this vision of me visiting her in hospital, making sure she was saved, becoming her friend, making her all better. In reality that wasn't the case. I had heard she couldn't see visitors during the radiation, even her own daughter's visits were limited. I was in and out of that hospital a lot at that time, because my baby girl had clicky hips and needed frequent visits. I enquired after her at reception one day, she had been discharged.

Months passed and I heard no more. I figured she must have been recovering. I heard she had a bone marrow transplant. I later learned it hadn't worked. I finally tracked her down and got in contact with her. She wanted to see me. I had just had my 4th baby at this stage and I organised for the other kids to be cared for so I could spend time with her. I was incredibly nervous... I remember driving into town and hearing on the radio that Anna Nicole Smith had been found dead that morning.
I met Mel in a cafe' and we had coffee and lunch. I felt awkward, like I had an ulterior motive, which I guess I did, that's why I was so nervous. It was obvious she was not getting better and she had began making "arrangements". She had selflessly sent her daughter over seas to live with her father so she could start the school year fresh, on time even though it meant the possibility of never seeing her again. Mel was not well enough to fly. Again I was heartbroken as she put her child's needs ahead of her own. Another old workmate later joined us for lunch and I never got around to asking her "how she was possied with JC".

I left that lunch with a feeling of failure and regret. I had prayed that God would give me everything I needed to say to her that day, so I just had to believe this was his will. Had the opportunity never arisen or was it not part of His plan? Or had I chickened out?

We kept in contact via text and a few weeks later I was called to the hospital with the information that this could be the last time I see her. I prayed. Oh did I pray about it. I had friends praying all over for her too. My husband suggested I pray for her while I visited. I wrote it down on a piece of paper before I left because I wasn't used to praying out loud with anyone .

When I got there I was disappointed that the same lunch friend was there too. Mel looked bad. I have never seen anyone that sick before. She looked like a little old lady, every scrap of hair was missing from her body, she was a strange yellow colour. My heart was lead. It had such an overwhelming heaviness I can't barely begin to explain. We couldn't stay long, she had lost control of her bowels and we reassured her not to be embarrassed. Things like that just don't matter when the realness of life is forced upon us. All I could do was offer her the piece of paper I had written on, intending for me to use as "notes". I said goodbye, afraid to hurt her with my touch she was so fragile.

It's not until now that I realise I had it all wrong. Where alot of people of faith get it wrong. It's not about having motives, to get others believe the same as we do. We can't brainwash or bully others into seeking salvation. It's about forming relationships and loving one another. If we JUST love everything else will fall into place. Imagine how different the world would be.

I'm never going to know what Mel's decision was and that too was obviously part of the plan. It is a constant reminder to me to have courage and to build relationships with the people that are purposely placed in my day to day life.

Names were changed

Introducing...Marnie!

NAME: Marnie

LOCATION: Toronto, Canada

AGE: 39

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR: Since August 2009.

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION THE MEDIA GIVES OF WOMEN: That getting older is not sexy. Age brings on confidence and that is very attractive. I have a problem when I see women who are just barely 30 getting Botox treatments.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU THE MOST: I'm constantly inspired and in awe of people who march to the beat of a different drummer. They know what makes them happy and they do it. Period.

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING IN YOUR SPARE TIME: I'm a book worm. I love to read. It can be anything from cook books, self improvement, or fiction. If it looks interesting I'll read it.

WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS BLOG: I love the concept...be yourself, be supportive & share. Let's raise each other up! How could I not want to contribute to such a wonderful community?

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE DISH: Overall, I try to make sure I eat mostly whole foods. When you make your meals at home, you know what went into it. Favorite dish...too many to count, but I have a favorite drink. It's called a green smoothie. I throw in some fruit, kale and spinach (whatever greens and fruit you have on hand will work) mix it with some water or coconut juice and put it in a high speed blender. All you taste is the fruit. It's delicious and very healthy.

FAVORITE PLACE TO SPEND TIME: My backyard. I love sitting on the deck, feeling the sunshine on my back.

WHAT MAKES YOU PROUD TO BE A WOMAN: My daughter!!! It was a privilege carrying her under my heart for 9 months, watching my belly grow, feeling her kick and hearing her heartbeat at my doctor's appointments. Pregnancy is a very precious time. I'm glad I was able to experience that. Now that she is 4 the fascination continues.

BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED WAS: "There is only a Stream of Well-Being that flows. You can allow it or resist it, but it flows just the same." Esther & Jerry Hicks. It's really true when you think about it...swimming upstream is always a battle!